There is a lot of talk about ungrateful people. A lot. I have heard a great deal about the ‘ingratitude of teenagers’, ‘ungrateful youngsters’ or simply ungrateful people in general.
“Ingratitude is treason to mankind” – James Thomson
This makes me sad but probably not for the reason you think.
First of all, I would love to turn it around 180 degrees. I want to look at what is happening in me when I start talking about ungrateful people. I start to get have many many different types of thinking that often sets off emotions such as anger, indignation and huge levels of grumpiness. This colours how I see the world and paints a whole bunch of people as “not nice”. My world seems more depressive than before and I feel sad. Just one set of thoughts, if I believe them, can do all of that!
The crazy thing is that this depressive state creates ingratitude by its very nature! I become one of the people that I was raging against!
and this is my main point ……. most so-called ‘ungrateful people’ who display ‘ingratitude’ often do so accidentally. The world is a gift! Yet they cannot see the gifts that are all around them.
Why should we attack the fact that they are accidentally wearing blindfolds? If you saw someone stumbling in the street, terrified of the darkness, not realising they were wearing a blindfold, wouldn’t you try to help them? You wouldn’t yell insults at them, would you?
I cannot count the amount of times that I have been blind to the gift around me. It was often that I was in a low state and totally consumed by my own low level thinking. I could feel a fog around me that blotted everything out. I knew I ‘should’ be grateful but I couldn’t feel it. I had a blindfold on.
This is why things like a gratitude journal and counting your blessings practice actually work – they help take the blindfold off so we can see the world more clearly, with all it’s blessings.
Would you like to peek out from under the blindfold? Our Facebook group: Get the Gratitude does just that. Just ask to join!