Losing weight and losing your cool

photo (5)So this morning, I did the thing that I had been dreading: I stepped on the scales after the Christmas excess. Most of the mince pies have gone, the bubbly has been drunk, and the chocolates are a long distance delicious memory. The scales are not quite so delicious: but they do indicate what a jolly lovely time I have had. They also indicate the work lost and the work to come. Bother.

So why on earth write about this on a parenting blog? Surely this is a stressful thing? Bingo! Let me explain more:

  • I weigh myself
  • I am horrified at the number coming up
  • I start to think thought about myself that are unpleasant and damaging
  • My mood plummets
  • My stress levels rise
  • Leaving the bathroom, my daughter says something innocently and I explode

It is not the scales that have caused this, and it is not my daughter: both are innocent. It’s my thinking about the numbers and deciding what that means (and if that means I am a horrible person and mother) that is the cause of my moods. Just me.

Will this change the numbers on the scale? No.
Will it mean that my jeans will start to strangle me at the waist? Yes
Do I have to be in a terrible mood where I shout at everyone? Not necessarily.
Will I be Juicing for breakfast and lunch today? Hell yeah!

So when you jump on the scales, check your thinking as well as those numbers. It doesn’t mean you and your family need to have a grumpy start to 2013.

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28 Comments

  1. Ahh the perils of being a mother. We need to check ourselves so our negativity doesn’t drip all over the rest of the family. I agree with the point you are making. But also as a mature mother of three with all kids alive and successfully out of the house. Remember, some times sharing the battle with the family can make you all stronger in the end.
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    • I think it shows great strength and self awareness to be able to share your battles with your family. I am a firm believer in being a real human being with your children, rather than an aloof figure. They can come to you with their stuff then!

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  2. Great reminder! The only real cure for what ails us is the juice… and moderation… and taking the stairs more often, walking the dog, using the gym… πŸ™‚ And maybe laughing more and being more patient.
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    • And more juice πŸ˜‰ this morning was carrot, apple, ginger and lemon juice – yum. I don’t have an option on the stairs, as I live on the 5th floor with no lift!

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  3. It’s quite incredible the effect that those numbers on the scales have! I decided years ago never to weigh myself again but just to look in the mirror and check the fit of my clothes to see how things were going! Much less stressful. Didn’t stop me nagging the kids though… πŸ˜€
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    • The fit of my clothes was the first alarm bell!

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  4. Hi Tammy-Awesome awareness that your thinking about the number on the scale created your mood change and not the circumstance. I can’t relate to the scale “experience” but from what I can see you look great! As women we tend to be so hard on ourselves and find things to beat ourselves up about..I’ve so been there. When I have snapped at my daughter, I question my thinking. It’s great to see you talking about this on your parenting website. Happy New Year!
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    • Happy New Year! It’s great that you question your thinking when you snap – it’s usually very little to do with them, it’s usually all about whatever else is going on with us in our heads.
      I am going to head over to your site now as your work looks really interesting

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  5. This is so true! It’s so important to remember how the little things can affect our mood and our relationships with those around us. I often feel bad when my kids receive the results of an issue I’m facing. It’s so not fair. It’s nice, however, to know that I am not alone with the disappointment on the post-Christmas scale!
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    • Christmas is for living in the moment and having fun. We know those scales are going to do funky things in January!

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  6. I don’t own a weighing scale so I depend on the fitting of the clothes on any given day(my weight fluctuates like crazy). If they are tight, chances of becoming grumpy are high. Your post is a good reminder to get our priorities right. πŸ™‚

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    • Thank you πŸ˜‰

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  7. Great reminder of the truth – the scale does not define us. And an avalanche of negative thinking can take out innocent skiers at the bottom of the hill. πŸ˜‰

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    • I will remember that analogy, as I live in Switzerland!

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  8. This is a great post. I have lost 55 pounds over the past two years. I don’t weigh very often. Like Karen – my clothes and the mirror tell me everything I need to know.

    I am exited about this challenge – my VA is out of town so my blogs have not posted yet – when she returns they will be posted. I just going to keep writing.

    Love this challenge!

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    • I look forward to reading your posts – keep writing!

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  9. I am happy you are jumping back in. I had my green smoothies every other day for the last two weeks. I lots it the last two days. We eat junk food on New Years Eve every year. It is a treat we don’t get to often. To much salt and sugar in the same day always does me in. Back the the daily green smoothies. Happy New Year and Looking forward to seeing what else you have to say.
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    • I used to do Green Smoothies, but I am having way too much fun with a juicer at the moment. Juices and smoothies all the way in January, then I can feel (physically) much bouncer!

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  10. I haven’t allowed a bathroom scale in my house for almost 20 years now, nothing but self loathing comes from those evil devices. I have been very fat and been pretty thin and it took me a while to figure out that what I look like doesn’t matter that much. Replace your morning weigh in with a morning affirmation, look yourself in the mirror and know that you are so much more than the sum of your parts. You are beautiful and special, we all are in beautiful and special ways.
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    • Absolutely

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  11. Great post, Tammy! It’s definitely time for me to get back in the saddle. Reprogramming the thoughts is a must!
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    • By reprogramming your thoughts, you can create a situation where they are something to do battle against. How would it feel to know that they are just thoughts, which are creating your feelings and reality. Whether you take them serious is your decision. Then there is no fight for control.

      Does that make sense?

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  12. I do need to work on not spilling things over. When it happens I usually will apologize and explain to them why I snapped but I really need to work on not snapping in the first place. I’m also participating in the blog challenge and am always in need of coaching so I think you may be a good fit for me. Looking forward to reading more as the month goes on.
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    • It is wonderful that you have reached a place where you know why you snapped and can apologize. Really it is: that is half the battle. Your children will really appreciate your honestly and humility.

      Rather than working on not letting things spill over, could you focus on not getting to the point where your thoughts were so huge that they need to spill? So, rather than stopping a spill, it would dissolve it before it got to that point?

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  13. I don’t weigh myself anymore – instead I go by the fit of my clothes and how many sizes I have gone down or up.

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    • As you can see from the photo, my scales are held together with tape!

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  14. I don’t own a scale and am quite happy about that. Every once in awhile, I might get to weigh myself at a spa. I manage my weight through decent eating (wouldn’t call myself a health freak, but I try to control the junk food too) and how tight my pants are fitting. If they’re getting tight or if I can’t button, definitely time to lose weight. I’d rather not have to buy new pairs of pants! But just be kind to yourself. It’s hard. I know. We can be such bullies to ourselves!

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