“You love playing with R. You both giggle so much”
“But I don’t want to go to the woods. Its SNOWING. Its COLD.”
“Its Monday. We go to the woods”.
Normally that would be the end of it. But it wasn’t. It continued right up to dropping her off in soggy, snowy, cold woods. Why? She could sense my weakness. I was trying to be strong, trying to be the “parent” who makes decisions for the greater good. But….it was snowing. It was cold. I wouldn’t want to be out there.
That is why Missy M wouldn’t drop it. I was not 100% behind my conviction, not being 100% authentic, and she knew, deep down that there was something she could try to work with.
So if your child is being very demanding or trying to get you to change your mind or decision, is it because you are not 100% in agreement with yourself? Why have you made that decision? Is it a good one, or was it made in haste and under pressure? Can you make any changes to the situation to bring yourself more in alignment with it?